Cockiness and Humility

I have always been taught by my teachers and elders to be humble and never get too excited over things. But in all this process of building skills and realising my potential I got cocky.

Let me tell you how superstitions(or just belief systems) work, I get cocky about something, I lose it…BOOM! I lost it because I was cocky about it.I announce my plans, those plans don’t come through… BOOM! I shouldn’t have talked about it.

Now all of this is cool. I become a more calm person, nothing can phase me, I am amazing at things…cool so what?, I am shitty in these areas…cool so what? But in all of this process of being humble I got a little under confident. That’s harmful too. Where I can’t over shoot my ideas, I cannot underestimate myself either. 

As you move out of an education system and into the real world, your theoretical knowledge goes to shit but makes you realize it’s importance over time. But my point was, your skills and knowledge are meaningless if not applied. They can’t be communicated if not applied and can’t be applied if not communicated. To communicate it, I had to be cocky.
I can’t sit for a job interview try to be humble, not say anything. Even if I do I can’t bring a flag bearer to announce my titles. Well, that’ll be a whole another level of cocky.

When you are communicating about yourself you gotta be clear. I try to maintain an equilibrium between cockiness and humility.

Now that this blog post is shifting gears from “self help” to “soft skill lessons” I am gonna end it.

BUT WAIT…

Before we can get end the topic of cockiness we should not forget about the people who feed this cockiness. I can either work really hard have no appreciation for it from the people and one day just do some random shit and it blows up then become cocky OR Don’t do anything, just make people believe i’m doing shit and let them feed my cockiness and then be cocky.

It’s all about communication ergo it’s perception. I always tried to avoid overconfidence and as a consequence became under confident. I would like to thank the people who show me my place for good but then again I don’t believe in having a place or a standing because I am everything and nothing at the same time.

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